It is in the best interests of the children of separating parents that the parents reach agreement as to their ongoing care.
Separating parents may reach agreement in relation to the care arrangements for the children by way of:
- an informal, unwritten agreement;
- a written, signed and dated Parenting Plan; and
- Parenting Orders made by the Family Court.
In deciding which of these approaches is best for the children it is necessary to consider the differences.
Informal Agreement
An informal, unwritten agreement will work well for separated parents in limited circumstances where the parent/s:
- communicate well;
- do not undermine the parenting of the other parent;
- actively encourage the relationship between the children, the other parent and their extended family; and
- otherwise agree on all aspects of parenting.
Parenting Plans
A Parenting Plan is a written, signed and dated agreement made between separating parents in relation to:
the care arrangements for the children, including with whom they live and the time the children are to spend with the other parent and/or another person;
the decision making to be made by a parent and/or another person;
the communication a child is to enjoy with another person;
agreement on the method of discipline of the children;
how to facilitate future discussions about the care arrangements for, or issues in relation to, the children; and
the process to be used in resolving disputes about the terms of the Parenting Plan.
A Parenting Plan may be a good option for parents who;
- work well together and are able to resolve their own issues;
- trust one another with the ongoing arrangements for the children; and
- are seeking a large element of flexibility with these arrangements.
Unfortunately, this is not the case in a large portion of cases.
While Parenting Plans are flexible and are ideal for parents who get along well, they are not legally enforceable.
What must be included in a Parenting Plan?
Section 63C(2) of the Family Law Act 1975 (Cth) (the Act) sets out the requirements for a Parenting Plan, as follows:
- The Parenting Plan must be in writing;
- The Parenting Plan must be signed by all parties;
- The Parenting Plan must be dated;
- The Parenting Plan must not be made under any coercion, threat or duress – in other words, both parents must be in agreement and freely enter into that agreement.
- The Parenting Plan must include provisions for one or more of the following:
a) Who the child will live with;